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- Reality TV: The premise of the show itself is, as I said above, falsity clothed in "reality."
- Living in Sin: The interview revealed that the couple was living together almost immediately. If the timeline my head is accurate, the two were dating for a total of about six months – they were living as man and wife well into the second month. Even when I was single and reckless I knew this was a recipe for disaster. How can two become one flesh on the promise of courtship – you need the permanency of marriage and the grace bestowed it via God. It is a sacrament after all. (Trust me on this last point. It ain't easy without Him. You want God as the first wheel in your marriage and any relationship for that matter.)
- Physicality: On this point I was most surprised. Not because of the fact that sexual intimacy seemingly occurred but rather that it pretty much stopped altogether. Humans are made in the image and likeness of God, meaning we have a free will and an intellect. These two intangible features are tied together a rather unique way for humans – this is what separates us from all the other creations. Our free will and intellect are built into an immaterial, immortal soul which is then tied into a material, mortal body. This is why we can be sick in one aspect and have it affect another. In the case of Jake and Vienna, the passion (interesting to know that the root of passion means to suffer together) felt by both parties ceased probably because one or the other had some illness in the spirit that affected the body (sin of course). According to what I heard from Vienna, that would have been Jake. His former fiancé mentioned that one of his excuses was fasting or waiting until after they were married, etc. All valid reasons but in my opinion, a way to try and keep from committing further sin or temptation (truly assuming that they had slept together. This is obviously against our current culture. Just take this comment from a Huffington Post article:
Former 'Bachelor' Jake gave ex-fiancee Vienna a variety of reasons for refusing to have sex with her, from his diet to wanting to wait until marriage. Now contestants on the show say Jake might prefer men.
"I think he has gay potential and definitely gay tendencies," a bachelorette from Season 12 tells Radaronline.com.
Paul Rosseau, who appeared on Season 4 of 'The Bachelorette,' agrees.
"I definitely think he has gay tendencies, not only because of the way he dresses but also because he didn't want to have sex with a beautiful girl and never really tried with the other girls on the show," he told Radar. "Nothing personal, Jake!"This could all be true but I would rather give the man the benefit of the doubt and say that he was probably conflicted inside. It was the fasting comment – I
don't hear it too m
uch outside of Lent but we do know that fasting is a means for spiritual clarity and an attempt to seek something or do penance.
- Modern Feminism: My wife's mouth dropped when Vienna opened hers, usually to interrupt Jake. He stated that the chief issue he felt was miscommunication, which resulted from Vienna being mean, undermining (his authority I presume), emasculation, etc. This is the problem with modern feminism – they want their cake and wish to eat it too. Isn't going to happen. I can't tell you how many woman I have dated that suffered from this issue (Hell, I didn't realise I suffered from this issue until well into my marriage – and I still trying to fix what I broke). The problem here is that many of these ladies desire strong, chivalrous men on their terms. Male and female He made them (Gn 1:27), which means we are equal but different. Men and women compliment each other, where one is deficient the other is efficient. This is part of God's will and design (thus the unnatural nature of homosexual union…but that is for another post). When a woman proceeds to contradict the very nature of a man a shift in the balance of the domestic church is disturbed. In the case of this couple there was not church to begin with so the cohabitation already placed a strain on the relationship thus fuel was being added to the fire by a Vienna's actions. Mind you Jake is no innocent man: he willfully cohabited, he lost his temper (on camera too) and seemed a bit too cocky for me vis-à-vis Vienna. Every man must love their "wives as Christ loved the Church" (Ep 5:25) and give himself completely to her, emptying himself for her. This is Christian love – Christian marriage.